Follow up: To love or not

After looking at the other blog posts I have realized that love does have a bad side and it is very different from person to person some people want to fall in love others don't. Some want to but not yet, others want to as soon as possible and then theres people like me, I would like to but Im in no rush, whenever it happens it happens because I feel like if you rush or wait to long then that you will miss the chance to fall in love with the right person. I think that that's why divorce happens because you tried to force yourself to do something instead of going with the flow and waiting for that right moment or waiting for the right time to meet the person that you really are looking for that matches all the things that you want in a person. You tried too hard to find that person that you thought was the right person instead of finding the perfect person for you. Falling in love at a young age can be difficult because you think that you know them but over time everyone changes and that someone you thought was perfect isn't so perfect anymore. But on the other side of things a couple can date in high school  and then later on get married, have kids, and spend their entire life together happily until they're both gone. This often appears in movies but it can occur in some instances. As I was reading over the blogs I came across many different, very good ideas showing different perspectives, but one stood out in my head as a very good point. On Cam Nearys blog it says that someone in most movies there is a protagonist that is without love and are grumpy all the time and then at the end they find love and completely change and I thought of The Christmas Carol as a perfect example of Scrooge Living a life full of sorrow, dad after day grumpy because he hates christmas, but in the end he is basically starting a new life rejuvenated by the love he has for christmas. In this case it is not necessarily love for a person but for a view. This shows that for some people love represents happiness and how much of it love can bring.

To love or not to love

I think that it is important to fall in love. Mostly everyone in their life will fall in love at some point. And at that point i think that no matter what even if they break up, divorce, or whatever, that they will still always love each other because at one point they found a reason too and that reason will always be there. By not falling in love with someone, you aren't allowing yourself to fully experience life. Love is a part of the cycle of life, you grow up with your families love, then you marry someone and love them, making the decision to have kids and love them. Without falling in love with someone than you miss the chance to share happiness with them and build a family. Of course this is not what all people want, but for the majority of people it is. It can be a problem to fall in love early because you don't know if you actually love them or not, or if you just think you love them. But once you actually fall in love and marry someone you will be able to tell that you actually fell in love.

None is enough reflection

Theres allways one experience in life that either makes, or breaks you. If you're on 16 and pregnant then you definately didnt do it right. But for many other adults they want kids to have someone to care for and watch grow up. I would want kids when it is that time in my life whenever it may be becuase I would like a big family as i don't have one. Having kids not only grows your love for them but also builds the relationship between the couple, by having to raise him/her together and make important decisions together. But having a child is not always how they make it seem in the commercials, there are many cons or struggles that come with having a baby. That includes finances. You have to pay for everything from the day their born till after they go to college. Unless they get a job but that only pays for so much. I think that you dont really think about the money too much because if you really want a child then your willing to put your whole life on hold to meet their needs. At that point you won't think about the money part of it. The part of having a child that makes you want to is watching them grow from the day they are born. Watching them take their first steps, playing sports, making friends, going to school, go to college and then their gone, obviously im not a parent but I can't imagine the experience of dropping your son or daughter off at college realizing that you have done everything you could do to get them to this point in their life. The emotions of sadness and happiness that you, were once in their place at one point. Today in class we talked about/watched a video on caring for your parents when they eventually need you as the grow old. I think it is very important to help your parents at this stage of their life becuase if you think back on your entire life, not once has your mother or father not helped you when you needed it. Because that's what family is there for. So you should be able to help them even if it takes away from your life becuase they were once staying up all night comforting you when you were crying.

interview

Me: mom i have to ask you some questions about parenting.

mom: okay 

me: what age were you when you had me and bryanna (my sister)?

mom: uhm, i was 25 when bryanna was born and 28 when I had you.

me: do you wish you waited to have kids?

mom: not at all, if i had waited any longer done anything different then you wouldnt be here and i would have different children.

me: oh ya, I never thought about it like that. Anyway, How did you decide where to raise me?

mom: well at the time whe had you and your sister we were living in Norton. After Bryanna had gone through 5th grade we decided to ove to mansfield becuase grandma was selling her house, the one that I grew up in actually and didnt want you going to the schools in Norton. 

me: yeah that would be horrible to still live there. But whats the most sacraficing thing you have ever done for me. 

mom: uhm to be honest i dont really know haha its hard to pick out one thing in particular over the past 16 years i think that i do a lot though whether it taking you to practice all the time, or buying you clothes or whatever it is that day but it all adds up and i try to do whatever I can to put a smile on your face. 

me: I know i dont say it all the time but i really do appreciate everything you and dad do for me, whether i say it or not. You and dad are role models and i cant thank you enough, i just wish i could give back the same amount that you do for me. 

mom: Well Branden thats what being a parent is all about, Dad an I go to work everyday so we can give you the best that we can, and once you grow up and have kids you wont do things for them to get a reward you'll do it because you love them. 

me: yeah i get it, that means a lot. Is the way you parent us iinfluenced by the way you were raised by your parents?

mom: yeah of course, My parents were very strict but they also obviously cared about me a lot. And that goes for a lot of parents too. 

me: alright i think were done here, thanks mom

love

"Adorn"

These lips can't wait to taste your skin, baby, no, no
And these eyes, yeah, can't wait to see your grin, ooh ooh baby
Just let my love
Just let my love adorn you
Please baby, yeah

You gotta know
You gotta know
You know that I adore you
Yeah baby

Baby these fists will always protect ya, lady
And this mind, oh, will never neglect you, yeah, baby, oh, baby
And if they try to break us down don't let that affect us, no, baby

You just gotta let my love
Let my love
Let my love adorn you
Ah, le-le-le-let it dress you down

You got to know
You gotta know
Know that I adore you
Just that babe

I... oh oh
Let my love adorn you baby
Don't you ever
Don't you let nobody tell you different baby
I'll always adore you
You gotta know know
You got to know know know
Now yeah

Ooh, yeah
The same way that the stars adorn the skies yeah (every night baby)
Oh, look up suga (every night baby)
Now, hey, hey, hey
The same way that my whole world's in your eyes (in your eyes baby)
Ooh, and this time now (and this time baby)

Just let
Let my love adorn you baby, hey
Le-le-le-let it dress you down
You gotta know, baby
Oh, you gotta know
Know that I adore you
Oh, love aint never looked so good on ya
Ooh, put it on baby
Let my love adorn you

Daily Exposures

I think that the daily exposures make me think about the world differently. Especially the Video ones with the visual to go along with it as they bring a perspective of someones story in their life. I think the one where the Grandfather that owned the appt. building and had his family over every sunday  was very interesting because it showed the family coming together for a tradition. And then having to move out and how he and the boys destroying the windows not only representing anger but also the destruction of the family as they now do not live together or visit each other anymore. This story made me think about how important it is to spend time with family because it could get broken up at any time. Another daily exposure that made me see the world differently is the picture of the african american boy starving, and how we all whether we realize it or not take food, water, anything, for granted. As kids get angry about their parents not letting them do something or buy something, there are people like the boy in this picture that are suffering from much worse things. Even though many people do have it bad, someone out there has it worse.

Flifferhuzza

Flifferhuzza  (Fliff-Er-Huzza) / noun.

1. A Flifferhuzza is an organism only found in the deep caverns of northern Australia. There are no Flifferhuzza's captured to date but there are photographs which lead us to believe they exist.

adj./    (Since Flifferhuzza's are very small/weak and "boney" they are often used to describe someone).

1. Small/weak or scarce in muscle

          ex. Friend:  " Yo Branden, Aidans lookin' flifferhuzza today, huh?"
                Me:   " Hahaha. He always does dude"